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November, 2011

  1. Sunday nights with tea and blankets

    November 20, 2011 by Nikki

    I love winter in a weird way. I’m currently in bed with a cosy blanket as well as a sunggly duvet, wearing warm PJs and drinking tea that tastes like mulled wine. You can’t do that in summer. In fact, summer evenings normally find me lying on top of the bed, wailing how I just can’t get cool enough to sleep, and repeatedly turning my pillow over and over to try and get some relief.

    Yesterday James and I went to Boring 2011, a conference organised by James Ward in East London, that promised to celebrate on the ordinary and focus on the minutiae of daily life. We had talks about hand dryers and the sounds of vending machines and small talk and the whole thing was finished off with an awesome talk by Adam Curtis which started with a talk and video of tiny snippets of video from the ends and starts of old BBC tapes. James took a photo of the running order and I want to blog properly about it, but he’s off doing something else at the moment, so that will have to wait.

    Today was spent doing not much at all. I mean, I did a pile of ironing, and made a vegetable stew and cleaned the kitchen, and had a bath, but it was all vey relaxed. I felt a bit out of sorts today, which I am sure if a reaction to the reaction to the horrendously stressful week I’ve had. I’ve got the best outcome for me, but this has been at the detriment to someone else (not my doing I hasten to add!) The quietness of just pottering about was what I needed, and following a bath, I feel much more ready to face the world tomorrow.

    This week I’ve got a WI committee meeting, and our wedding photographer is coming round on Wednesday night to discuss the details – at that point we’ll be less then 12 weeks out. Gulp.

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  2. T-112 days.

    November 5, 2011 by Nikki

    I promise I will try not to spam this blog with wedding stuff. I even started a separate blog for that, but allow me the odd post, please? ;)

    I know we’d always planned a spring wedding, and people sucked air through their teeth at that, but things are happening a lot quicker then expected! I spent most of this week trying to get through to our preferred venue, only for it to constantly go through to an answerphone I wasn’t able to leave a message on, or for it to just ring out. Thursday afternoon I tried again, sticking it on speakerphone, only to have someone pick up! I asked about availability in March/early April, only to be told they had July 28th, the last weekend in October, or February 25th.

    A quick call to my mum who spoke to the caterers we’d been looking at, a call to Warwick registry office to see if they had someone available, a call back to confirm – and suddenly we’re getting married in a little over 100 days.

    Gulp.

    I knew we were operating to a tighter schedule then most couples, but this now seems incredibly close. I’m not as worried as I feel I ought to be, which perversely is worrying me more. We’ve got a lot in place – we’ve got the venue, the caterers and the registrar. We’ve managed to book the wedding photographer that I really, really wanted. I really hate having my photo taken, so finding an photographer that could come up with easy relaxed looking photos was important to us, and I adore her style. I’ve pretty much decided on a dress. We’ve figured out a colour scheme, and I’ve got a good idea of how I want the place to look. The majority of our decorations will be homemade, and fairly simple – we want big, clean shapes and for everything to co-ordinate.

    We’ve not got the money to spend on a lavish wedding, and to be honest, we don’t really want that. We’re aiming more for a party then a Reception with a capital letter. We want it to be easy and relaxed, for people to have fun, and to celebrate with us. We’re ironing out the guest list, and I feel awful that there’s so many people we cant invite – if I could, I’d invite everyone, but then we’d have to change so much about the wedding, and the whole feel of the thing would change. We’re thinking about having a party back in London for all the people we can’t invite – would this seem weird to you, if you were invited to a separate party but not the main wedding? I do know that whatever we do, people will be offended, and upset – I think I’ve already upset someone by inviting someone else, but I don’t know what to do – in an ideal world, everyone we invited would come and have a great time, but I know realistically that that won’t be the case.

    Maybe we’ll just run away to Vegas and be done with it ;)

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